I started a book club this past week. We started the book the The Fifth Agreement. The sequel to the 1997 book The Four Agreements, by Don Miguel Ruiz. I read the original book years back. This book speaks about listening, but be skeptical. Below I found a website that gave a recap of what the agreements are about. This purpose was a little selfish on my part. I was being lazy and didn’t want to read the first book and start the 2nd book before Wednesdays meeting. I needed this so I wanted to share it with you. Would love your thoughts!
The 5 Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. {A Recap} https://www.elephantjournal.com/2014/01/a-recap-of-the-5-agreements-by-don-miguel-ruiz/
Simple steps to opening the door for inner peace.
1. Be impeccable with your word.
Being honest with ourselves and others frees us to be real. Speak with integrity; don’t gossip or speak ill of others. Take responsibility—don’t blame. Being real feels good. Our reality is not going to match others’ realities because we all have our own movies going on in our heads. Perceptions vary because we’ve all lived a different life and processed the experiences of our lives through different glasses. If we lead with loving intentions, and a do not harm attitude, we can go to sleep at night with peace in our hearts.
2. Don’t take anything personally.
Again, no matter what we do or say, the reactions we receive from others is about them not us, even when we violate the first agreement! When we remember that the reaction of others is about their take on life we can give ourselves a break from having to try to be perfect in our actions, reactions and communications.
This doesn’t mean ignoring the do no harm ideal, but it does relieve us when we feel we have abided that agreement and we’re still misunderstood.
We all project at times, and we tend to get triggered when something hits a hot button that may be true at some level.
3. Don’t make assumptions. (Though not always.)
What’s the old adage? Assumptions make an ass of you and me. If everyone is living in their own fantasy world then it would stand to reason that they’re not in our made up world. Most of us aren’t mind readers. Rather than think he should know what I want, why not make it clear by stating it?
Ask for what we want. Ask questions to clarify actions that hurt or confuse us rather than presupposing that the other person automatically thinks like us or should know better. Practice open-mindedness. And if you’re going to make an assumption, I guarantee you’ll feel better giving the person the benefit of the doubt, even if that doesn’t turn out to be the case. Assuming the worst makes us feel bad. Wouldn’t it be kinder to ourselves to assume the best and then deal with whatever the reality is?
We will be disappointed sometimes, sure, but going the alternate negative route means disappointment every time.
4. Always do your best.
Our best changes for day to day and sometimes moment to moment depending on what’s going on in our lives and how healthy we feel physically, emotionally and spiritually. We can offer the world more love when we start with ourselves.
We all mess up, but there’s no benefit in beating ourselves up over it. Let’s catch ourselves when we’ve stumbled off the path and take note without self-punishment. Hurt people hurt people. Sometimes we hurt others, which ultimately hurts us.
This is life.
Forgiving ourselves makes it a lot easier to make amends and asking for forgiveness from others as well as forgiving others for their weaknesses and imperfections.
5. Listen, but be skeptical.
Since we all have a different life experience and these different movies playing in our minds, it makes sense that we don’t know what we don’t know. This doesn’t only apply to listening to others! It applies to listening to our own thoughts and opinions. Whenever I’ve had an aha moment I think, Wow I just learned something new that I’d had a different opinion about only a moment ago. Up to that instant I might have been pretty darn certain about my old opinion!
So, we need to be open to others’ thoughts and ideas and ideals if we want to grow and learn and evolve and support each other. It doesn’t mean we’ll change our mind movies every time, but our attitudes with others will come across with acceptance and understanding which encourages connection. And isn’t that what our relationships are all about?
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With over 40 years of study in the field of natural and alternative healing, I have amassed a wealth of knowledge from reading numerous books on various healing methods. These books span a range of cultures and philosophies, and I take pleasure in comparing and contrasting their differences. Through this blog, I aim to assist you in deciphering the available information and modalities. This blog serves as an informative guide on your personal journey to self-healing.
There are numerous methods for accomplishing the same task. Many ideas share a common concept yet are known by different names. If there's one thing I've learned, it's that we must heal ourselves on every level—Mind, Body, and Spirit—and seek the answers within ourselves."
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