Over the recent years, I have found that grief has many faces. People who lost a child is not the same as someone who lost a parent or spouse. Now, this does not mean that it is any less significant. It is different. I spent many hours reading and in groups, trying to make sense of it, if you can at all.
Then I realized that people who have lost children have different types of experiences as well. I have not lost a child at birth, through an accident, or very super young. My heart goes out to them. But when you have a child that is in his 20’s, 30’s or more. You got to know them. You raised them. You got to watch them grow, all their firsts, all the times you kissed their wounds, held them and comforted them, watch them in their accomplishments and made you proud. It is just different!
But understand when you tell me how all your children are around you. When you know your kids are going to be there at the holidays, the phone calls have stopped. All the commercials are on TV and you realize, oh yes I don’t have to get anything. You can’t be afraid to talk to someone, but be sensitive if they are having a hard day. Don’t take it personally. You find you are all alone a lot…no matter who is around you.
If that is not hard enough. Then you lose both your children. I don’t want you to understand. But sometimes I don’t want to suck it up either. Move on? Really? I hope you never get to know what it is like to lose lose a child or two. Grief is a process. it is not a mental illness. You have to walk through it. In your time not everyone elses. Not all days are bad. When you go with the flow and acknowelege that..the feelings are just part of loss. Allow yourself to be with your broken heart. You will always be ok! I promise you. As time moves on, I have more good days than not. There are only 24 hours in a day and tomorrow will be better!
Certified Specialist in End of Life and Grief
I have learned over the years, that we have the ability to heal ourselves. We create our illness. However, we can also create our wellness. The moment has arrived. I am elevated by the legacy of numerous luminaries in the field of healing. With over 40 years of study in the field of natural and alternative healing, I have amassed a wealth of knowledge from reading numerous books on various healing methods. These books span a range of cultures and philosophies, and I take pleasure in comparing and contrasting their differences. Through this blog, my aim is to assist you in deciphering the information and modalities available. It serves as an informative guide on your personal journey to self-healing. There are numerous methods for accomplishing the same task. Many ideas share a common concept yet are known by different names. If there's one thing I've learned, it's that we must heal ourselves on every level—Mind, Body, and Spirit—and seek the answers within ourselves." I am a certified Reiki Master/Teacher and a Master Energy Healer of (Human Energy Field Activation) HEFA. I have a bachelor's in communication along with graduate studies in Stategic leadership and personal development. During my lifetime I acquired skills working at a woman's center helping abused woman of domestic violence and sexual assault/ Worked at HeadStart extended day program helping Single parents get on their feet as a family advocate, Over the past few years, I have assisted several individuals coping with loss, particularly parents who have endured the pain of losing a child, as I have. I am currently pursuing a certificate to become a Death Doula, which will enable me to support people in advance planning and serve as a grief coach.
I am Hyla, (a certified educator in end-of-life care with a focus on grief. The realization that we possess the ability to heal ourselves is a significant insight shared by numerous wisdom traditions and contemporary leaders. This understanding highlights the natural resilience and healing potential of our body and spirit. It also reveals how our thoughts, emotions, and actions can profoundly impact our health and well-being. By recognizing our part in shaping our wellness or illness, we take control, enabling ourselves to initiate positive changes and assume responsibility for our healing process. This change in perception unveils a realm of possibilities, constantly reminding us that opportunities for transformation and rejuvenation are ever-present.
In this moment of inspiration, we draw wisdom from luminaries in the field of healing. Their legacies serve as guiding lights, illuminating the path toward holistic well-being and personal empowerment. Whether ancient or modern, their collective legacy inspires us to explore diverse approaches to wholeness. Their enduring influence urges us to embrace a multidimensional understanding of health and integrate their teachings into our lives, shaping our journey toward vitality and balance.
With over 40 years of study in the field of natural and alternative healing, I have amassed a wealth of knowledge from reading numerous books on various healing methods. These books span a range of cultures and philosophies, and I take pleasure in comparing and contrasting their differences. Through this blog, I aim to assist you in deciphering the available information and modalities. This blog serves as an informative guide on your personal journey to self-healing.
There are numerous methods for accomplishing the same task. Many ideas share a common concept yet are known by different names. If there's one thing I've learned, it's that we must heal ourselves on every level—Mind, Body, and Spirit—and seek the answers within ourselves."
Remember that grief is a unique and personal journey, and each individual copes differently. As a coach, my role is to provide support, validate emotions, and help clients find their own path toward healing and acceptance. 🌿 Disclaimer: Should you be on any other medication, have a medical condition, or have any concerns regarding the advice or ingredients, please consult your doctor before using my services.
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