Author: Lady Hy: Wisdomkeeper

Certified Specialist in End of Life and Grief I have learned over the years, that we have the ability to heal ourselves. We create our illness. However, we can also create our wellness. The moment has arrived. I am elevated by the legacy of numerous luminaries in the field of healing. With over 40 years of study in the field of natural and alternative healing, I have amassed a wealth of knowledge from reading numerous books on various healing methods. These books span a range of cultures and philosophies, and I take pleasure in comparing and contrasting their differences. Through this blog, my aim is to assist you in deciphering the information and modalities available. It serves as an informative guide on your personal journey to self-healing. There are numerous methods for accomplishing the same task. Many ideas share a common concept yet are known by different names. If there's one thing I've learned, it's that we must heal ourselves on every level—Mind, Body, and Spirit—and seek the answers within ourselves." I am a certified Reiki Master/Teacher and a Master Energy Healer of (Human Energy Field Activation) HEFA. I have a bachelor's in communication along with graduate studies in Stategic leadership and personal development. During my lifetime I acquired skills working at a woman's center helping abused woman of domestic violence and sexual assault/ Worked at HeadStart extended day program helping Single parents get on their feet as a family advocate, Over the past few years, I have assisted several individuals coping with loss, particularly parents who have endured the pain of losing a child, as I have. I am currently pursuing a certificate to become a Death Doula, which will enable me to support people in advance planning and serve as a grief coach. I am Hyla, (a certified educator in end-of-life care with a focus on grief. The realization that we possess the ability to heal ourselves is a significant insight shared by numerous wisdom traditions and contemporary leaders. This understanding highlights the natural resilience and healing potential of our body and spirit. It also reveals how our thoughts, emotions, and actions can profoundly impact our health and well-being. By recognizing our part in shaping our wellness or illness, we take control, enabling ourselves to initiate positive changes and assume responsibility for our healing process. This change in perception unveils a realm of possibilities, constantly reminding us that opportunities for transformation and rejuvenation are ever-present. In this moment of inspiration, we draw wisdom from luminaries in the field of healing. Their legacies serve as guiding lights, illuminating the path toward holistic well-being and personal empowerment. Whether ancient or modern, their collective legacy inspires us to explore diverse approaches to wholeness. Their enduring influence urges us to embrace a multidimensional understanding of health and integrate their teachings into our lives, shaping our journey toward vitality and balance. With over 40 years of study in the field of natural and alternative healing, I have amassed a wealth of knowledge from reading numerous books on various healing methods. These books span a range of cultures and philosophies, and I take pleasure in comparing and contrasting their differences. Through this blog, I aim to assist you in deciphering the available information and modalities. This blog serves as an informative guide on your personal journey to self-healing. There are numerous methods for accomplishing the same task. Many ideas share a common concept yet are known by different names. If there's one thing I've learned, it's that we must heal ourselves on every level—Mind, Body, and Spirit—and seek the answers within ourselves." Remember that grief is a unique and personal journey, and each individual copes differently. As a coach, my role is to provide support, validate emotions, and help clients find their own path toward healing and acceptance. 🌿 Disclaimer: Should you be on any other medication, have a medical condition, or have any concerns regarding the advice or ingredients, please consult your doctor before using my services. Disclaimer: If you are taking any medication, have a medical condition, or have concerns about the advice or ingredients, please consult your doctor before using these herbs. Additionally, if you are pregnant, breastfeeding, or have a history of breast cancer, seek medical advice prior to use.
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Automatic Writing

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I found this article that I have cited to be a very useful how to bit of info. I have used the process of autowriting for several years. I have not been able to receive messages audibly from spirit. I found that putting a pen to paper seemed to connect regularly for me. The messages are clear. I always ask for the highest and best purpose.

In the beginning I could not read what I wrote. So I asked spirit for me to keep my eyes open so I can reread the messages later on. Well I started to question message. Didn’t seem real. Then I just put the pen down and i started to scribble. I realized it doesn’t matter whether or not i can read it later. I got the message when i did. I rewrite later. Everyone is different. When I first started this work, I thought I wasn’t reaching spirit correctly. I wasn’t doing it psychically. But I was getting messages. Very important messages. This has helped me even more since my boys have past. I have been able to communicate with them.

This is very healing for me. It goes along with a lot of my journaling. I’ve looked back at many of my messages and it has made me smile what I’ve accomplished since writing. Try it and have fun. It is important to connect with your inner self. Take time for you. We all have the power to speak with our loved ones. They are all around us and would love to communicate with us. I went to a few mediums and one simply said do autowriting he has something personal he wants to tell just you. I started to trust the process at that time, more than ever.

Levesque, Angela. “Your Guide to Automatic Writing.” OMTimes Magazine, 23 Mar. 2014, omtimes.com/2014/03/sacred-scribe-guide-automatic-writing/.

Posted in Charts, Energy Healing, Insights

So this is why I’m hurting!

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The above chart is one of my favorite cross reference Chakra charts. Yes you can Google it like I did. As you look at this chart you can see what areas that you personally need to address. Sometimes it is easy as looking where and what part of your back hurts hurts!

Many charts only have 7 Chakras, however there are many more. The one above has 15 Chakras. There is a Higher Chakra which is your over soul along with the Lower Chakras which are centers of the Primal Instincts and Emotions. These are also what goes along with the root chakra, but more detailed.

This chart has the 7 Chakras, however adds the elements Earth, Water, Fire, Air, etc. This chart has Gemstones. if you look at the next few columns you see Deficient and Excessive, along with what color is associated with each for self treatment. The final column shows what you could feel like when you are balanced.

This Chart is another great cross reference charts that include planet metal,sound, angel, fragrance, incense, gemstones.

I have been saving charts over the years as I learn different tools for healing. Many I just searched and saved. But I put them together to make sense for me. As you start to gather your knowledge and information. You will start building your own toolbox of knowledge and wisdom. You will start seeing a puzzle start to form together. Not all of us are the same. Not all of us learn the same. Do what works for you. These are a few charts to start with.

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Stormy Weather!

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Stormy weather is not the trees blown in the wind, nor are the surprises coming from the weather people. They are the people who you least expect it to come from at full force with no warning. I can not control these people, nor do I wish too. But just because they say that I should, I could or do anything, doesn’t mean that I have too, nor does it mean that I’m a bad person or not a good friend. It means I do not do things in the same way or the same manor as they do. I can not control these types. What hurts is you had faith that these people are your friends. These storms come from out of left field like a tornado. I’m disappointed that is true. I can’t control the weather, but I can control me.

I’ve ducked for cover and wait out the storm during these times. I’ve had these blast of weather surprises come at me more than I care to mention. I have had to exercise the art of patience over the years. I’m a good friend and a listener. But that art of patience is not my strongest virtue when I’ve been dealt blast of stormy wind. I do not wish to be whipped around with the waves of emotion. I can either stay in its path or protect myself. I do not intend to be caught up in this one. I will wait out the storm. My strength has not withered, it is just knowing that this was not my storm to whether.

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I’m Possible

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We all have rough days. So more difficult than others. But we have to choose whether we want to mire in the muck or move forward. It’s a rainy type of day. My bones hurt and I can really surrender to going to sleep and stay in there until the morning.

For me when I feel things are impossible, I come into the office and start typing. I can write myself out of impossible and realize that I am possible. Sometimes this is a daily task. It works for me. Then I’ll take it a next step and talk to someone on here or on phone that I know that I can help. It gets me out of being in a pity party. Leaves me with a good feeling. What do you do to get you out of an impossible mood?

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What is impossible?

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To me this saying is to get past the fear, is put one step in front of the other. That sounds so simple. When you are in the middle of your deepest fear, depression or anxiety…you just want to smack someone when they say something so cliche!

When I read this quote. The first thing I thought of is to start with a cup of coffee!. That is necessary. It gets your mind thinking. I worked years amonst engineers and they always had a cup of coffee in their hand as they walked around with their minds in a creative place. I had many days that I looked at the white screen that needed words on it desparately. My mind was whirling and couldn’t figure what to write. I went to famous quotes, then images created my own meme in Microsoft Publisher. Wala, I have an image. No… it wasn’t my quote, No it wasn’t my image. It wasn’t even the original image the quote was on! But what it did is it made it possible for my mind to start writing and journaling.

The next step will be the impossible. That will be my own images that I create, and the quote maybe my own.

I see that this quote is a useful one especially when I don’t want to exercise. Just getting up is necessary. Walk a few steps, Then what I thought was impossible was walking down the street daily. Not quite there yet. When I go through difficult challenges, something so simple as starting with a cup of coffee or getting up off my butt…just might be the very thing that sparks the impossible! This could be used for organizing too. I have a few piles of stuff to be addressed! Looking at it this way. The Impossible is action. It becomes possible and then necessary! Try it!

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It’s Time

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I spent many years staying in the house. I did not exactly not have a good excuse and I used them all. Mainly no access to a vehicle, because of my partner’s work. I had a horrible accident back in 2011 with a 18 wheeler. It has left me with a challenge to walk. Something happened…maybe a divine intervention. I don’t know. But it wasn’t good on his part but definately for me. He landed in the hospital. He’s doing a little better. But he can’t work. So guess who has to drive.

It was easy to stay in the house and have a pity party. But I went online and found things to do that I like. I went to a meditation group and joined a book club. I love it. I’m not done yet! I’m going to be able to start doing Reiki in at the meditation group. I know my son wanted to me to get out more and be independent. I really started to do that after he passed in January. But then got quite comfortable sitting in my spot in front of the TV. I need to stick with this. My soul has been crying out to meet new like minded people. To come alive again. I loved getting out.

I’ve very glad that D (my partner) is doing well by the day. But he can’t really go out and work yet. When or if he does. I made an agreement to use the car in the day and he can work at night. He likes waking up late and I’m a mornings. It is amazing how you are thrown road blocks and then when you take a minute you get to see how they were not at all meant to block you but to free you!

I started a book club this past week. We started the book the The Fifth Agreement. The sequel to the 1997 book The Four Agreements, by Don Miguel Ruiz. I read the original book years back. This book speaks about listening, but be skeptical. Below I found a website that gave a recap of what the agreements are about. This purpose was a little selfish on my part. I was being lazy and didn’t want to read the first book and start the 2nd book before Wednesdays meeting. I needed this so I wanted to share it with you. Would love your thoughts!

The 5 Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. {A Recap} https://www.elephantjournal.com/2014/01/a-recap-of-the-5-agreements-by-don-miguel-ruiz/

Simple steps to opening the door for inner peace.

1. Be impeccable with your word.

Being honest with ourselves and others frees us to be real. Speak with integrity; don’t gossip or speak ill of others. Take responsibility—don’t blame. Being real feels good. Our reality is not going to match others’ realities because we all have our own movies going on in our heads. Perceptions vary because we’ve all lived a different life and processed the experiences of our lives through different glasses. If we lead with loving intentions, and a do not harm attitude, we can go to sleep at night with peace in our hearts.

2. Don’t take anything personally.

Again, no matter what we do or say, the reactions we receive from others is about them not us, even when we violate the first agreement! When we remember that the reaction of others is about their take on life we can give ourselves a break from having to try to be perfect in our actions, reactions and communications.

This doesn’t mean ignoring the do no harm ideal, but it does relieve us when we feel we have abided that agreement and we’re still misunderstood.

We all project at times, and we tend to get triggered when something hits a hot button that may be true at some level.

3. Don’t make assumptions. (Though not always.)

What’s the old adage? Assumptions make an ass of you and me. If everyone is living in their own fantasy world then it would stand to reason that they’re not in our made up world. Most of us aren’t mind readers. Rather than think he should know what I want, why not make it clear by stating it?

Ask for what we want. Ask questions to clarify actions that hurt or confuse us rather than presupposing that the other person automatically thinks like us or should know better. Practice open-mindedness. And if you’re going to make an assumption, I guarantee you’ll feel better giving the person the benefit of the doubt, even if that doesn’t turn out to be the case. Assuming the worst makes us feel bad. Wouldn’t it be kinder to ourselves to assume the best and then deal with whatever the reality is?

We will be disappointed sometimes, sure, but going the alternate negative route means disappointment every time.

4. Always do your best.

Our best changes for day to day and sometimes moment to moment depending on what’s going on in our lives and how healthy we feel physically, emotionally and spiritually. We can offer the world more love when we start with ourselves.

We all mess up, but there’s no benefit in beating ourselves up over it. Let’s catch ourselves when we’ve stumbled off the path and take note without self-punishment. Hurt people hurt people. Sometimes we hurt others, which ultimately hurts us.

This is life.

Forgiving ourselves makes it a lot easier to make amends and asking for forgiveness from others as well as forgiving others for their weaknesses and imperfections.

5. Listen, but be skeptical.

Since we all have a different life experience and these different movies playing in our minds, it makes sense that we don’t know what we don’t know. This doesn’t only apply to listening to others! It applies to listening to our own thoughts and opinions. Whenever I’ve had an aha moment I think, Wow I just learned something new that I’d had a different opinion about only a moment ago. Up to that instant I might have been pretty darn certain about my old opinion!

So, we need to be open to others’ thoughts and ideas and ideals if we want to grow and learn and evolve and support each other. It doesn’t mean we’ll change our mind movies every time, but our attitudes with others will come across with acceptance and understanding which encourages connection. And isn’t that what our relationships are all about?

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Leadership is about vision and responsibility, not power …Seth Berkley

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Back in about 2008, I started my Masters program in Strategic Leadership and Personal Development. I completed 3/4 of the program minus the internship. At this time my eldest son found he had brain cancer. Just couldn’t put two words together at the time. Years since, i wanted to finish my program. The school since closed and life just took me away to this past year where I lost my second son to sepsis.

I feel that the life experience that I had gone through these years certainly can be justified as an internship. I don’t think there is a more difficult road to follow. The loss of 2 children. My story, my strength, my work, my studying says it all. So this degree might have taken a round about direction. But I landed where I needed to be. Many parents are losing children more and more unfortunately. But my story is my story. It is something only to be experienced. These writings are the beginnings of my book. No one can tell me that I am wrong or right…once you lose someone, especially children. I am at a level in spirituality that I am ready to face whatever God is about to hand me. Because I have already survived the most unimaginable task of giving my children up to spirit. I got a message from spirit in meditation not to long ago. I was told that my children are in good hands and now it is my turn to heal and work my purpose.

Just when I think I have been through the worst, my life partner ended up emergency with Congested Heart Failure and Hypertension. He was in there for a week and now I’m here and have to face this. I felt myself getting soooo mad. How dare he. I was just beginning to feel a bit better. Then in this morning meditation, I realized it was me I am mad at. I need to be able to fulfill my purpose no matter what is thrown at me. All will be well. That insight was not an easy one to face. I’ve already been though enough. This has got to stop. But I saw, inspite of everything that goes on around me, I have to heal myself first. All else will heal by itself. Just by being.

I got my marching orders. I’ve always been a healer, and my path is about helping others. I just never got the clarification before hand about what I was helping others with. Leadership is about leading yourself first then others. The determination to do so comes from my inner being. My Masters Degree is complete! So it is! Next…

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Looking at the brighter side of something not so bright!

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It has been a rough week. My life partner has been admitted with both some heart and kidney failure. It has been very trying for me. Dealing with hospitals alone can send you in a whirlwind. It has been less than a year since my son died so all this stuff is fresh in my brain. I will trust he will be fine.

Since all this has happened, I had to get up and move around more, walk more, do more. Break through fears. It was rough the first couple of days. But now that it has been a week, it felt good to walk, it feels good to get up and to do things. I’m choosing to eat healthier. Key is why do I need a horrible event to get me moving. I am not alone on this, that I know.

Sometimes when we are faced with something like this. We have to look in the mirror and say. Hey what is it about me that I don’t like with this situation. I am in no position to call the kettle black, I can be mad at him if I am not caring for myself. Wake up time!!!!!

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My opinion is ok with me!

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One thing you will come to know about me. Is that I will respect your opinion. But my pet peeve. Is when my idea is not respected in return. This is when I get a tad irritated. It is ok to have my opinion.

When someone questioned me, sometimes I would fluster and change my opinion in my early years. I don’t need to. I believe in the idea that we can heal ourselves is an idea that I have stuck by for many years. It is what I believe for me.

I bring forth ideas that I have tried or would like to try for towards a better healhy me. I am not telling anyone to ditch their doctor. You can do many of the these methods in conjunction with having doctor. Like deep breathing. What I would like for you to understand. Many times you can try natural remedies before you rush to take medications. Grief is not a mental illness. It is a natural process we go through when we lose someone. Why would they prescribe a med for this?

I live in a 55+ state of Florida. If you go into the doctor, you will see people carrying in a Walmart bag full of medications they take. Many times there are more than 3 for each body party they are hurting. I just ask you to question this. Why need 3 -5 pills for one modalady? Really? All the effects of one lead to more ailments and more pills which lead to effects. Is this what you want?

Did you realize that if you want to take a vitamin that you are unsure of, you can check with your pharmacist. They will check it out and print out any conflicts. Usually vitamins don’t have many, but they can. So wise to check. Just to be sure.

Because I choose alternative ways of healing, doesn’t mean I don’t get sick. What I do, is listen to my body. I know when I’ve done too much of one thing, I pull my self back and get back on my program. I have to take responsibility for my own health, so how I do it is my choice and doesn’t mean It’s wrong. I find when I start to get myself off sugar, and any junk food. Start to eat well. I do feel wonderful. My arthritis lets up, I’m not in pain. Many other changes start to happen that feel great! The magic happens in this moment! What are you going to try that is new this week to take care of yourself?