Today was rather dull, and I found myself dwelling in my gloom. Despite not wanting to stay in that state, I had a list of activities to do but still felt a resistance.
I motivated myself to rise and began channeling energy from my feet up to the crown chakra at the top of my head. As I continued to nurture and elevate it throughout my body, I felt significantly better afterward.
I grabbed my journal and started writing my way out of this mood. Try it, it works!
I’ve been waiting an excessive amount of time for my house to sell. I’ve done everything possible to make it appealing to potential buyers, including making repairs and reducing the price. I dream of starting afresh in a new place, one that I hope will become my permanent home.
Time has passed, yet no sale. My dreams are dissolving into the mist. I’m not usually one to surrender, but my motivation has vanished. The dream now seems distant. For months, I’ve been living in the now, with grief classes occupying my attention. They’ve helped distract me from the obvious void in my life.
I came to understand that I was placing too much importance on whether my life was working out. I based this solely on this dream. Much of it is also reality. Affording my current lifestyle is a challenge, and it would need finding a job, while if I moved, it wouldn’t. I recognized that investing so much in the dream was holding me back. So, I shifted my focus to the current moment, began taking online courses, and started writing my book. I’m entrusting my faith in God and allowing things to unfold as they’re meant to.
That’s a comforting thought, isn’t it? 🌟 Life often presents us with challenges, and while they can feel overwhelming at times, our resilience and inner strength help us navigate through them. Absolutely! Our inner resilience acts as a guiding light during life’s storms. It’s like an invisible anchor that keeps us steady, even when the waves crash around us. Remember, you’re never alone in this journey. As an End of Life/Grief Educator and a grieving parent, I’m familiar with the profound impact of these experiences on individuals and their loved ones. Often, we find ourselves unable to move forward. Allow me to assist you in bridging the gap between feeling stuck and leading a functional life. If there’s anything specific, you’d like to discuss or explore further, feel free to share—I’m here to listen and support you. 💙
Certainly! Loss comes in many forms, and each experience is deeply personal. Here are some common types of loss:
Keep in mind that each person’s experience with loss is distinct, and it’s crucial to respect your emotions during these challenging times. Should you wish to delve into coping mechanisms or talk about any particular kind of loss in more detail, don’t hesitate to elaborate, and I will provide a listening ear and support. 🌟
Losing a child is an indescribable pain, and the loneliness that follows can be equally profound. When a child passes away, the emptiness left behind is palpable—a void that no words or gestures can fill. Here are some insights on coping with this unique form of loneliness:
Remember, you’re not alone in this lonely path. Others have walked it before you, and their compassion and resilience can inspire your healing. Reach out, share your story, and allow yourself to grieve without judgment. Please feel free to send a message to Lady Hy on the Contact page if you feel a need to talk. 🌟
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I’m here brainstorming, trying to determine my next steps. We’ve all found ourselves in this place at some point, often more than once in our lives. It’s not always about things going wrong; sometimes, it’s about evaluating whether we’re on the right path.
Throughout the years, I have been guided by the wisdom of numerous educational and spiritual giants. I’ve acquired a wealth of knowledge, and the most precious lesson I’ve learned is that the best advice often comes from within. Even after consulting these giants, I turn inward for guidance. This approach applies to friendships as well. I consider the counsel of trusted friends, then synthesize the information to make my own choices. This isn’t to say I distrust their advice or undervalue their opinions; rather, it signifies my ability to make informed decisions independently.
When the time comes to gather all my facts from friends and various resources, I take a moment to relax and engage in deep breathing. I always have a notebook and pen close at hand, and I invite guidance from the spirit for my highest good. Initially, this process wasn’t always straightforward. I understood the mechanics of breathing, yet quieting my mind was a challenge.
My approach is to journal everything. I write down everything that’s upsetting me, along with all the options I’ve been given. After that, I pause and take several deep breaths. I then seek guidance from the spirit for the next step towards my ultimate goal. Finally, I let the pen flow freely.
It’s commonly understood that individuals grieve in diverse ways. Some may suppress their grief to continue with daily life. However, this doesn’t imply the grieving process has stopped. Often, suppressed grief manifests physically, resulting in discomfort or illness. To outsiders, we may seem to be coping, but internally, our bodies suffer greatly from the stress of repressed emotions.
Our minds are powerful, capable of fostering our wellness or contributing to our illness. We face a choice: to persist in negative patterns or to seek healing. In the 90s, I experienced six losses. Seeking guidance, I consulted a counselor, who advised me to prioritize self-care, especially since most of those I lost were of advanced age.
When I realize that I’m feeling run down, I understand it’s grief making its way through. I question whether I’m taking care of myself. Often, the answer is a resounding no. That’s when I know it’s time to reboot. I begin by reviewing my calendar, creating a to-do list, and planning my meals. Despite being aware of these strategies, the ‘grief fog’ can make everything seem futile. Rebooting may sound simple, but it’s challenging amidst the weight of this fog.
Putting one foot in front of the other is how you start. Eventually, the fog will lift. You will be able to walk forward. There will always be a piece of your heart that belongs to your loved one. Acknowledge that it is grief you are going through. Put on a smile and have a good day.
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I’m sitting at the computer as the rain pours outside, casting a gloomy and depressing aura. In this moment, I have a choice: I could either give in to the sorrow or I can lift myself up and begin to move around.
Is there really a need for an excuse to grieve? What does it mean to surrender to grief? Simply acknowledge, “I’m feeling sad right now, and that’s okay.” I miss my children, and I always will. The desire to move is absent. I engaged in the one activity I believed would aid me. With soothing music playing, I began to journal my emotions. Before I realized it, I had filled about eight blank pages with my deepest thoughts. I leaned back to ponder my writings. I took several deep breaths. Initially, it didn’t seem to help, so I persisted with the breathing exercises. After drinking some water, I gradually felt the tension dissipating from my body.
Was this surrendering? Absolutely. Because if I hadn’t stopped to replenish myself, I couldn’t have continued. It felt like I was being dragged into a dark abyss of grief. Allowing myself the time to walk through the grief, rather than resisting it, will mend my heart a little more each day.
Allen passed away on January 1, 2019. With time, some aspects become more manageable, yet a piece of my heart remains forever absent. I continued with my day, but suddenly, tears flowed, followed by uncontrollable sobbing. Recalling his birth, his essence, and his achievements fills me with pride. My heart reaches out to him, expressing how deeply he is missed. Wishing Allen a Happy Heavenly Birthday!
Today, I explored another healing technique using a pendulum. I look forward to sharing my insights with you as I delve deeper. Currently, I’m utilizing charts and finding the process captivating.
I find joy in embarking on a journey through my books, discovering new insights and topics to write about. Although I’ve read numerous books over the years, I must confess that I’ve merely skimmed through many of them. Frequently, I find myself selecting an intriguing book in the bookstore, only to have it remain unopened on my shelf for years. I know I am not alone on this one. Then, one day, it called out to me. It’s the perfect moment. The books almost seem to speak to me, to sing to me. As I look around, there’s always one that stands out more than the rest, one I know I haven’t yet explored. That’s when I realize, it’s time to delve into this one. I wasn’t ready for it when I first brought it home.
I’m always immersed in books, often juggling several at a time. Their narratives begin to intertwine and resonate within my thoughts. Then, as if guided by intuition, I find another book that weaves these threads into a coherent whole, enhancing my understanding in case something is overlooked.
For years, I have pursued this without pause. I’ve longed to pass on this knowledge, and now, you are the one I share it with.
Lady Hy: WisdomKeeper 
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