Tag: emotions

Posted in Grieving Naturally, Self Determination

Here we go again!

Posted on by Lady Hy: Wisdomkeeper

The 5 phases of grief do not come to you in any specific order. Just because you went through the phase it doesn’t mean that you will not be hit with it again.  There is a different aspect of the anger that you haven’t addressed.

There are different types of losses.  You may be going through the loss of a special person,  but however, there are losses that occur that you don’t realize that require processing just as much a loss of a loved one.   There is a loss of a home, Job, finance, friend who moved away or a relationship that didn’t work. A  divorce.  The key does not disregard these losses as something you don’t have to process.  Loss is a loss.

Once you have acknowledged what it is that you are going through.  You can take a deep breath, don’t beat yourself up about it and carry on.

Posted in Grieving Naturally

Grieving to long?

Posted on by Lady Hy: Wisdomkeeper

You get to a point in you life when you can not escape the experiences of grief.   The experiences are different, pending on the relation to you.  Whether it is our parents, spouse, or children the pain of grief is immobolizing. I’ve experienced all three, even though the spouse was an ex.  Still felt bad, because he gave me two beautiful boys. So I can honestly say I can speak to this subject.

The biggest question is how long should you grieve? The answer is: It is my journey, and when it takes as long as it takes.   There are the 5 stages, by Kubler-Ross. I included them in a previous post.  You will move on and there are several ways to help you. That is what motivated me to create this blog.  You will heal. But there is, and always will be a hole in your heart where your relation(s) was.

Even if you expect a loss,  you never are ready for it.  The idea sends you into shell shock, your numb and you walk around like you are in a constant fog.  This doesn’t have to happen. But it does, more often than not.  As time goes by, the fog starts to lift.  This is the time you need to start taking your own initiative to do things. Be creative, write in journal,  read…so many options.

There will be moments when something sets you off, but You get back on track, but it is only 2 steps back not 10.  Acknowledge what you have done, be proud and know you will make it through.

This isn’t the easiest topic. But I feel that by helping you understand my journey, it might also help you understand you are not alone, not just you. Most important you will be ok.

Please comment or you are welcome to leave a message to contact you if you need someone to talk to.

 

 

Posted in Grieving Naturally, Self Determination

I must be strong, even on rainy days!

Posted on by Lady Hy: Wisdomkeeper

It has been a rainy day, and I found there was not much I felt like doing, so I reflected on my life and the challenges I had to face.  I look at my resume and see my accomplishments and was amazed at what I really did do. I look at pictures and think of the relationships. Saw how I grew as time passed. Saw how the kids grow and their amazing tributes they offered this planet. Proud Momma.

Take this time to reflect and write out your accomplishments.  Then on a rainy day. Take them out and read them.  Smile to yourself, and say. I’m Strong.  I can accomplish anything I want to do. Because look what I have already done! Be proud of you!  Even on rainy days!

 

Posted in Energy Healing, Self Determination

Break-through!

Posted on by Lady Hy: Wisdomkeeper

Fear can freeze you in place!   Today I drove my car for first time in 4 years.  I looked up at the book case this morning and saw the book pop out at me.  Feel the Fear, and Do It Anyway.  I didnt read book yet, but for today You don’t even need to read the book to figure out what one needs to do.

I chanted my little “Everything will be ok”,  and it was.  Everyone has their own fears, some many. I invite you to challenge yourself and share what you accomplished.

Posted in Insights, Self Determination, Wisdom

How Do I Know All This?

Posted on by Lady Hy: Wisdomkeeper

Over the past 45 years, I have learned so much.  I didn’t limit myself and there was always something just waiting for me to absorb the information. I love to learn  (not test). I stood on the shoulders of giants in the metaphysical and natural healing fields.  

My first introduction to healing was with Louise Hay books.  You Can Heal Your Life.  Her principles are on cause and effect. That we create our own illness, but we can create our wellness too.  I liked this concept and I adapted it to my own core principles throughout the rest of my life.  Over the years, as I learned new tools, I found myself going back to these principles.  

These learning tools are just the way I followed my path.  Not saying this is the way you should. No one can tell you that you should do anything.  This is what helped me.  My favorite part of Louise Hay’s book is she had a chart in the back of her book. That listed the ailment and then the cause. And a positive affirmation with the intention of healing the concern. 

After all these years what do I do with all this information? There are many giants in this industry that I studied and I learned from.  I will be sharing them with you and you can enjoy your own learning journey.    Share it with you! 

Posted in Creativity, Energy Healing, Grieving Naturally, Insights, Self Determination, Wisdom

Rediscovering Yourself

Posted on by Lady Hy: Wisdomkeeper

As you come out of the fog from grief., your vision starts to become clearer?  Back in 2008 when my first son found out about his brain cancer, I was going for my masters in Strategic Leadership and Personal Development.  I was on my last semester, but couldn’t concentrate enough to finish.

That was 10 years and 2 children gone from my life.  There is a piece of me that would love to finish. But I do not have the concentration level to deal with exams. But what I am doing in my mind as I do this blog, is finishing my degree. But helping others who have gone through what I have unfortunately had to endure.

Everything is not coming to me overnight. But I’m taking that good old slogan ” One Day at a Time”, and rediscovering myself. All will work out!

6 Months Already

It is for 6 months since Allen has passed. I have gone through the gambit of emotions. But last few nights have been rough with the debates. My son would have been on the campaign trails by now and we would have been on the phone through the whole thing and explaining the whole thing, not that I couldn’t, but he had the pulse higher up before he chose who to work for. He was in demand. I missed him so much.   He was such an animated person, everyone loved him. But he wanted to be with his brother, Brett in heaven. I know they are in a good place and fulfilling their purpose in Gods hands. I’ve had signs, I’ve talked to them and even though I miss and love them both. I know I’ll be ok. I got 2 angels watching over me!

Coming back to this blog helps me so much.  Each day, I work on something new to keep me going.  It doesn’t matter whether it is 6 months or 6 years. I miss them both the same. 

Well, I must have missed a month in my frozen state because it is 7 months.