Tag: loss

Posted in Grieving Naturally, The lady's Journey

Not sure what to say!

Posted on by Lady Hy: Wisdomkeeper

I had an appointment today and was asked how many children do I have.  At first, I said, not sure how to answer this. She gave me a strange look. I choked up, a little bit of tears. Then sat up straight and said …, Yes, I have two in heaven!

To hear those words come out of my mouth made it really real! At that moment, there was a shift in energy. I had a choice, do I fall apart, or do I pull up my big girl panties and stand strong. All my life I fought to stay strong in the face of adversary. Today, was one more day I chose strong once again.

 

Posted in Grieving Naturally, Wisdom

Lakota/Sioux Tradition on grief and loss

Posted on by Lady Hy: Wisdomkeeper

“In the Lakota/Sioux tradition, a person who is grieving is considered most waken, most holy. There’s a sense that when someone is struck by the sudden lightning of loss, he or she stands on the threshold of the spirit world. The prayers of those who grieve are considered especially strong, and it is proper to ask them for their help. You might recall what it’s like to be with someone who has grieved deeply. The person has no layer of protection, nothing left to defend. The mystery is looking out through that person’s eyes. For the time being, he or she has accepted the reality of loss and has stopped clinging to the past or grasping at the future. In the groundless openness of sorrow, there is a wholeness of presence and a deep natural wisdom.”

Posted in Grieving Naturally, healthy eating, The lady's Journey

How much loss can you take?

Posted on by Lady Hy: Wisdomkeeper

I’m only 2 months in from my loss from my younger son Allen. I do ok. I have my moments but I’m functioning. I am doing well with my sugar numbers, even though I had a perfectly good reason to go haywire. 

But then came another blow. My dear friend of over 20 years, took ill in hospital and I lost her yesterday. She does not live near me. I was blessed to be able to say goodbye to her. Her daughter put the phone up to her ear.  Even though we did not live near. We were on the phone daily chatting. To me, that was a visit. We helped each other through the toughest of time. Yes, she was there for me when both my sons passed.  We were there for each other at times for celebration too. 

My heart is so heavy right now.  I feel that grief is trauma.  When you have to deal with so much of it…it takes a toll on you.  This is the second friend within a year that has passed from kidney failure.  What this is showing me, is that I need to stay diligent with my food plan and avoid the sugars. Take care of myself. This goes back to why I even started this blog. I want to live. 

Posted in Grieving Naturally

Just Breathe!

Posted on by Lady Hy: Wisdomkeeper

I took a few deep breaths. Put on some nice, calming music and picked up this tablet. Within a few minutes, I have a calming heart, a smile on my face and ready to go forward. This works! When the sorrow shows up and it will. Keep rebooting yourself. Because I know both you and myself are important. Right now, I have to take care of me. I have work yet to do! I will have a better day! How about you?

This is just a tough day. Since I lost one child already, I thought I’d be ok by now after losing the second. I’m determined not to cave in. I recognize ill have some rough days. But this is a little worst. Maybe because now both my children are in heaven. Empty feeling. Trying to avoid meds.