Tag: self help

Posted in Grieving Naturally, healthy eating, The lady's Journey

How much loss can you take?

Posted on by Lady Hy: Wisdomkeeper

I’m only 2 months in from my loss from my younger son Allen. I do ok. I have my moments but I’m functioning. I am doing well with my sugar numbers, even though I had a perfectly good reason to go haywire. 

But then came another blow. My dear friend of over 20 years, took ill in hospital and I lost her yesterday. She does not live near me. I was blessed to be able to say goodbye to her. Her daughter put the phone up to her ear.  Even though we did not live near. We were on the phone daily chatting. To me, that was a visit. We helped each other through the toughest of time. Yes, she was there for me when both my sons passed.  We were there for each other at times for celebration too. 

My heart is so heavy right now.  I feel that grief is trauma.  When you have to deal with so much of it…it takes a toll on you.  This is the second friend within a year that has passed from kidney failure.  What this is showing me, is that I need to stay diligent with my food plan and avoid the sugars. Take care of myself. This goes back to why I even started this blog. I want to live. 

Posted in Uncategorized

Happy Valentine’s Day

Posted on by Lady Hy: Wisdomkeeper

Before one falls in love with another individual. It is important to fall in love with yourself unconditionally first. No one thing or person can fill that void.

This is nothing new news. It is about staying in tune with that love that is important. Because If we do. There is no reason anyone could disappoint us. Because Love does conquer all and especially negativity.

Time to look in the mirror and say…I love you!

Posted in Self Determination

Stay Determined…

Posted on by Lady Hy: Wisdomkeeper

So many of us have made plans, goals, and by the next day. They are forgotten. Distractions are brutal. How many have set out to take a regimen of vitamins, or exercise or a life plan for eating? Might do it for a few days, then forget the next.

I decided I’m not going to be hard on myself. I am just going to keep picking myself up and doing what I have to do. I already have seen the results of forgetting about myself. I want to live and enjoy life.

I have started going back to my training in time management. Have beeping going off all times of the day to remind me to exercise, eat the right foods and take my vitamins. Do other work I am wanting to do. When you check things off for the day and complete things. It creates energy. When you don’t it depletes it. You can take the item you did not do, and post it the next day, then check it off for today for completion. It is important that we see a sense of accomplishment. I invite anyone to just join me and post any thoughts on how you stay determined.

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If it is going to be, it is up to me!

Posted on by Lady Hy: Wisdomkeeper

So many people doubted that I would ever have done half of what I have proven that I could do. When they got done with their judgment of me, I would continue on my own downward spiral of self-pity. Even though On the outside, I would be strong. Then I realized how many would still be in bed after the events that I have endured. There haven’t been too many types of trauma that have not found its way to challenge me. Always end up on my two feet.

The first day of the year I was faced with the news of my son’s passing. I made a decision at that moment that I was going to choose to live. I spent 6 years stuffing my grief and sorrows with food. I don’t drink or drug. I started taking care of myself but like so many other times I have put a roadblock up. Many times it is not me. It is people or circumstances.

Death of a child is not insignificant by any means. But the choice to self-sabotage is. All these issues become overwhelming and trying to be strong. I stuff my feelings. Every time, there is an excuse and I’m the one who pays dearly. Before my son got sick this year at end of November. I made a decision that I had to forgive myself for all that happened around my first son’s death. Somethings were just out of my control. His Angel date is on the 5th of December. I didn’t want to be sad anymore and wanted to celebrate his life. I wanted to enjoy the holidays this year.

No sooner did I make this statement when I heard my second son took ill. I forgot all the promises I made to myself and my sugar numbers went off the charts. My younger son did not want me to tell anyone about his illness. I felt I was all alone on this one. He didn’t answer phones. It wasn’t an easy time. It was stressful. This lasted a month of not taking care of me in spite of what was going on. I worked so hard on my food plan before this.

The day I had to fly up to see my son, I had plenty of time to talk to me. I decided that I was not going to spend a lot of years again grieving and sabotaging myself. I was going to live. When I got up to Connecticut, I walked more during that time and at the cemetery and walking up and down steps, it became the beginning of my exercise program. I actually felt better. I didn’t eat the hoards of food that was sent to the house.

This past month I had my moments that I was sad. I know that God/Spirit has my boys and they are in good hands, out of pain and full of love. They want me to be happy and healthy. They must have served their purpose. I was in my own way. I know I am not alone on this journey. This is why I’m writing this. I am living for me. When I have a difficult time doing it for me I will do it for the kids. Regardless, If I am going to heal it is up to me and nobody else.

I have actually felt a shift in how I feel and act. I am finding I am not as quick to go off my food plan. I’m exercising. Even if it is a little bit. My heart is light instead of heavy. I talk to the kids all the time. I know they are around and intuitively, I feel them around. I know it is my turn and I have a lot of work to do.

Besides all my books, I have 25 years of journals that I have written. I have started looking at all the messages that I have received when I have channeled. This is only the beginning for me. This is my first time having a blog. But this is helping me. I intend as time goes on I will be there for you too. Hugs from me!

Posted in Energy Healing

Where ever the mind goes the energy flows!

Posted on by Lady Hy: Wisdomkeeper

I found when I wake up in the morning. I start off my day with positive thoughts I can keep my attention focused. I have to keep busy. Timing now is essential, because If I allow myself to get caught up in grief. I get nothing done. It is ok to reflect. But I’m choosing to move forward. I’m a good one for a good pity party.

I am reflecting on a time when things worked well in my life. I was religious (only thing I’m religious about) is keeping a planner. Because when you write it down and you check it off you create energy. When you don’t check it off you deplete energy.

That can start off a whole new task for me though. Which size planner do I want? Will it fit in my pocketbook? Should I put it on my phone, or write it down. I decided to get a week at a time calendar with all the planets on it. Because I want to learn astrology this year. Then I keep a piece of paper in there with my to-do list. This works, no fuss!!

I look at it every day to see what I have planned. It is a great way to start my day. I keep it in front of me (fits in the pocketbook) and it keeps me focused, refocused, focused again! How do you keep the attention focused?

Posted in Grieving Naturally, Wisdom

Consistency of Living

Posted on by Lady Hy: Wisdomkeeper

A pattern is a form of consistency. Intellectually I know that this is the way to getting things done successfully. However, Why is it that I don’t stay with an exercise program, stay on my food plan, a schedule, my vitamins…whatever.

I even picked the color orange, because I react to it like nails on a chalkboard. Facing my resistance to consistency, what is stopping me from so many things. I am managing to sit my butt down in this chair and type. So this is a stop. I can make excuses with the best of them. I just lost a child, I should just stay on my couch and vegetate, feel sorry for myself. I can justify this one forever. I heard myself start the scenario in my head and I got up off the couch and headed for the keyboard. I know I am not alone on this one. You find yourself doing this too? What are you going to do to change this for yourself? Anxious to hear from you on this. I made a promise to myself that I am going to participate and be alive this year. I have too much to do.