You get to a point in you life when you can not escape the experiences of grief. The experiences are different, pending on the relation to you. Whether it is our parents, spouse, or children the pain of grief is immobolizing. I’ve experienced all three, even though the spouse was an ex. Still felt bad, because he gave me two beautiful boys. So I can honestly say I can speak to this subject.
The biggest question is how long should you grieve? The answer is: It is my journey, and when it takes as long as it takes. There are the 5 stages, by Kubler-Ross. I included them in a previous post. You will move on and there are several ways to help you. That is what motivated me to create this blog. You will heal. But there is, and always will be a hole in your heart where your relation(s) was.
Even if you expect a loss, you never are ready for it. The idea sends you into shell shock, your numb and you walk around like you are in a constant fog. This doesn’t have to happen. But it does, more often than not. As time goes by, the fog starts to lift. This is the time you need to start taking your own initiative to do things. Be creative, write in journal, read…so many options.
There will be moments when something sets you off, but You get back on track, but it is only 2 steps back not 10. Acknowledge what you have done, be proud and know you will make it through.
This isn’t the easiest topic. But I feel that by helping you understand my journey, it might also help you understand you are not alone, not just you. Most important you will be ok.
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I have learned over the years, that we have the ability to heal ourselves. We create our illness. However, we can also create our wellness. The moment has arrived. I am elevated by the legacy of numerous luminaries in the field of healing. With over 40 years of study in the field of natural and alternative healing, I have amassed a wealth of knowledge from reading numerous books on various healing methods. These books span a range of cultures and philosophies, and I take pleasure in comparing and contrasting their differences. Through this blog, my aim is to assist you in deciphering the information and modalities available. It serves as an informative guide on your personal journey to self-healing. There are numerous methods for accomplishing the same task. Many ideas share a common concept yet are known by different names. If there's one thing I've learned, it's that we must heal ourselves on every level—Mind, Body, and Spirit—and seek the answers within ourselves." I am a certified Reiki Master/Teacher and a Master Energy Healer of (Human Energy Field Activation) HEFA. I have a bachelor's in communication along with graduate studies in Stategic leadership and personal development. During my lifetime I acquired skills working at a woman's center helping abused woman of domestic violence and sexual assault/ Worked at HeadStart extended day program helping Single parents get on their feet as a family advocate, Over the past few years, I have assisted several individuals coping with loss, particularly parents who have endured the pain of losing a child, as I have. I am currently pursuing a certificate to become a Death Doula, which will enable me to support people in advance planning and serve as a grief coach.
I am Hyla, (a certified educator in end-of-life care with a focus on grief. The realization that we possess the ability to heal ourselves is a significant insight shared by numerous wisdom traditions and contemporary leaders. This understanding highlights the natural resilience and healing potential of our body and spirit. It also reveals how our thoughts, emotions, and actions can profoundly impact our health and well-being. By recognizing our part in shaping our wellness or illness, we take control, enabling ourselves to initiate positive changes and assume responsibility for our healing process. This change in perception unveils a realm of possibilities, constantly reminding us that opportunities for transformation and rejuvenation are ever-present.
In this moment of inspiration, we draw wisdom from luminaries in the field of healing. Their legacies serve as guiding lights, illuminating the path toward holistic well-being and personal empowerment. Whether ancient or modern, their collective legacy inspires us to explore diverse approaches to wholeness. Their enduring influence urges us to embrace a multidimensional understanding of health and integrate their teachings into our lives, shaping our journey toward vitality and balance.
With over 40 years of study in the field of natural and alternative healing, I have amassed a wealth of knowledge from reading numerous books on various healing methods. These books span a range of cultures and philosophies, and I take pleasure in comparing and contrasting their differences. Through this blog, I aim to assist you in deciphering the available information and modalities. This blog serves as an informative guide on your personal journey to self-healing.
There are numerous methods for accomplishing the same task. Many ideas share a common concept yet are known by different names. If there's one thing I've learned, it's that we must heal ourselves on every level—Mind, Body, and Spirit—and seek the answers within ourselves."
Remember that grief is a unique and personal journey, and each individual copes differently. As a coach, my role is to provide support, validate emotions, and help clients find their own path toward healing and acceptance. 🌿 Disclaimer: Should you be on any other medication, have a medical condition, or have any concerns regarding the advice or ingredients, please consult your doctor before using my services.
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Lady Hy: WisdomKeeper 
Grieving is something I must learn to do. I shut myself off to anything that will cause me pain, when in all actuality what I’m really doing is holding in to the grief so that I don’t suffer the loss. I have a lot to think about!!
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Doesn’t happen overnight, Just as much as how long you have held it in! Just be kind to yourself
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